Eat Your Elephant

For as long as we can remember, adults have asked children, “What do you want to be when you grow up?” It’s an innocent question meant to spark imagination and encourage ambition. But it also plants an early seed: that our identity is tied to what we do for work. The firefighter. The teacher. The doctor. The entrepreneur. The title becomes the destination. But what if we’ve been asking the wrong question all along? Instead of asking what you want to be, try asking how you want to live. Do you want freedom of time? Do you want to live close to family? Do you want the flexibility to travel, volunteer, or pursue passion projects? Do you want financial security so you can make choices based on purpose — not paycheck? Do you want health and energy that allow you to be fully present in every season of life? When you ask “how do I want to live?” first, you flip the script. Your career, business, or financial plan becomes a tool - not the master of your life. When we lead with what , ...